Monday, 20 March 2017

Men are not Aliens from Mars, neither Monster from ‘Lala land’ and I am not a Feminist






When we were growing up, we did not have social media with us neither the strong social platform. There has been a leap, many say in our thoughts, in our upbringing, our society and our parenting or just that the media has started glaring too much with their search for content. There might also be a graphical change in the societal morale and value quotient. The men of our society going haywire with devious instinct? The women folk keeping aside the conventional tag ‘Your fault’?  It goes on.....I might not be the right person to dig on to the reason.Or the women of our times have started being their own self, just the way they should have been, free spirit, an un-tangled identity, a human. Some say that's where the hue and cry is. Women have become "Feminists"...that's what they say.




The crowded bus, the abusive uncle, the creepy cousin, the uncanny boss, my slightly revealing 
dress, the skirt line, the fact that I was attractive, the fact that I wasn’t, the fact that I was submissive, the reality that I spoke too much, the truth that I smiled back, the notion that I was single, my age, my face, my anatomical graph, my social status, my cultural background, my gender....Do they speak without my knowledge? Or they display invitation cards? I never knew that. They don’t ask for joy rides, a lift, a consoling touch, a pat on the back.

The child, the teenager, the middle aged and the old-Did everyone  evoke a half naked alien plunging, grooving, prying for his victim in the darkness, in the broad day light, at a corner, even without the corner, in the streets, at the gathering, the road, the club, the hospital, the school, the temple and even at closet of the home.

I still believe in humanity.




My daughter grows up to be a teenager, I hold her fingers show her the blue sky, the better grass, the greener pastures, the heaven, the butterflies, the roses and then I drop the idea; take the plunge, the flight to the ground.


Words of wisdom-From Mummy

  • Masked faces might have a familiar smile.
  • Touch does not always mean pure love. IT COMES IN MANY SHADES

  • ‘No’ has no submerged undertones. IT IS SIMPLY A ‘NO’
  • The face, the cleavage, the legs are simple biological extensions. Invitation cards look different
  • Either it’s “Yes "or a “No” there wasn’t a disclaimer written “Read between lines”, fantasies are cooked up stories of perverted minds.


Harsher laws, severe punishment, stronger action and off course a few things beyond the law. 
Men are not aliens from Mars, neither monsters from ‘Lala land’ and I am not a feminist.

 I don’t know why I write this article, may be as a  writer, as a Blogger, as a Mother or just as a Human Being, my right to express,  my choked up feelings, my blocked up apprehensions and that dilemma to teach my daughter about life, men, feminists and aliens.

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Published   -https://www.mycity4kids.com/ 






13 comments:

  1. Gardener who noticed and removed the dry leaves versus the gardener who let the plant be on its own.

    One who cares would simply be brilliant in igniting the mind and the soul.

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    1. Thanks a lot for your beautiful words.

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  2. It's so beautiful and positive & so different than the usual reads we get these days. Thanks for writing this.

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    1. Thanks for your beautiful words. Much appreciated.

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  3. Well expressed thoughts of an apprehensive mother and a modern woman

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    1. Thank you so much Rahul Sir for stopping over and reading my blog. Very well said.

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  4. well written... pertinent thoughts although I am not entirely sure about the title.

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    1. Thanks Sumit for taking out time to read and giving your genuine feedback. Hehe regarding the title,it was just a stroke of imagination and I wanted to keep it on a better note...not at all justifying the pertinent thoughts about the other gender ....baaki feminism is too stereotypical a word these days so wanted to catch the readers attention by this trick;)

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  5. Beautiful! U rightly express the dilemma of a teenager's mom.

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    1. Thanks a lot Shaivi for reading.

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  6. As always you are a true writer just like your pen attached to the heart and My love for your writing is always there & this time it's no different .. beautiful subject and fantastically ����written
    Proud of you Roni ❤️❤️

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    1. Thank you so much Pinks as always... These feedback means a lot.

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  7. very informative post for me as I am always looking for new content that can help me and my knowledge grow better.

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