Unlocking the best part of life-Bachpan

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Unlocking the Bond

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"Buddy Parenting" Have you tried it at home,well surely it would change the way you bonded with your kid,those small portions of chocolaty delights surely has a key to better childhood.It has changed the way of parenting.



Bonding with Breakfast-Tiny Morsels of Freedom in each bite



We humans are always incorporating new things to reform ideas, revamp ideologies, raise our social behavior, edit our family values and  elevate our bond with our offspring’s.When I was growing up, I would hesitate on many things or would not have the courage to  converse on anything and everything  with my parents that kindled me or flared me. I kept it within me. Today as a parent, I go back memory lane, I still desire to  correct many false notions or opinions which was carved in  my innocent mind. An idea or notion when talked about makes a lot of difference. Shaping a child’s psychology, enabling  a wider platform. May be I would have been guided in a better way; I would not have ventured into the erroneous zones, or might be I would not have cried for a best friend.

Buddy Parenting is the new concept.This new concept is unlocking the conventional stereotypes of parenting, unfolding new dimensions-

• Parenting is tricky game-Play it well but "play"
• Positive tone echoing an assertive body language is the real essence of the game.
• Playing the game not as a referee but as an active participant,enjoying every bump on the roller coaster named "Childhood " is the "Mantra"
• Balancing the wheel of "Moral principles" with child psychology and steering "life skills" in the best possible direction.

Buddy Parenting-The Chat Path

 With time concepts are evolving. I have invested extra effort to become "Buddy Parent" with my 9 year old daughter. Right from the time she was born we decided as parents we would instill all the right virtues in her but as an individual she would have her own entity. Being born in our family and taking up our genes should  not block her mental and intellectual freedom. It should not be overshadowed or nurtured in our own standardized version of philosophy or our way of interpretation. As of now we have progressed in our new initiative. We term it as “Bonding Buddies”. Its more about openness, liberated views, unchained thoughts, unroped ideas and unfettered creativity.

"Khushi ke pal" is sealed in our bond.

It has opened many locks through the following ways

• Untangle
• Enlighten
• Support
• Clarify
• Discuss

Khuljaye "Creativity"-It’s a bond between us. I love to play a student and she loves rolling her eyes, teaching me  few tricks. And then she asks me if she could make  machines which could save a lot of hard work and I with my amazement ask her what instigates her to do so.She comes up with sketches where she has  a room full of high tech machines and a few Robots to help me with tasks, I Google for “Robotics” classes which could teach her the right skills  to enhance her creativity.I understood her thoughts, her vision, the way she expressed,the way I took it.

Ears to her Ideas

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“Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life.”

I am participating in the ‘Ready For Rewards’ activity for Rewardme in association with BlogAdda.” Inspired by the blog" 8 ways to a work life balance". I took this challenge https://www.rewardme.in/family/child-and-you/article/8-ways-to-a-work-life-balance

I have started collecting treasures each day. Time saved-Treasure collected. Till I grow old  I would be a rich man with all those treasures tucked safe inside my heart. And it would be a bank of "Treasured Moments."

Time Management-Time Collected

“Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life.” 

This  fits in perfectly with the life which we are living today. The mad rush, the crumble, the rush, the fleeting moments keep us on toe and time passes by underneath. But amidst the chaos haven’t we all hurled our  breathe to say “Am I actually living?”

As a family we live together but do we spend time laughing with our loved ones reminiscing events, do we actually speak about ourselves, have we spoken about anything since last few days, did we even walk together towards the beach during the sun set which was a delight when we had all the time in the world. No we had bought "Our Dream" house, we had the best of teak wood furnitures, we also had a balcony looking beyond the  green fantasies, but actually have we lived   those moments which we had bought. Or are we just spending huge amounts, paying EMI’s and counting breathe.

Family Time-Extra life span

I started sketching  my life and nowhere could I plant "Time". I had not looked at  myself, my declining health, my eroding timeline and my sinking life style(life style is quality of life here)

Time is life-Time is money-Investing in good health/ family/Hobby/Passion is saving wealth. .

That day I was reading this Blog on Blog Adda.It caught my fancy, taught a few tricks which could actually make life better, enjoy sunsets, go on fishing, laugh without a reason and enjoy “Pakoda’s” with my family. It's true we have our own explanations but each one of us can have at least some hours saved. A bit of planning and  “Time Management” is what  the Author emphasis on. Different smart ways to engage time and  use it in a better way.

Allotment of time- That surely was missing in my diary. The best time to work and attend emails was 8-11 am and I have started engaging that time efficiently. Now I have mid hour breaks where in I handle a few of those miscellaneous work. While I don’t waste golden hours, I actually save them for later usage.

 Turning on my concentration and turning off from social media- In this Blog a very important concern has been raised and the perfect way to overcome it.  I try to turn off notifications during work hours. I have started doing it thrice a week.  I  hold  my phone at a special time and at  a specified hour. I remind myself of the duration which I would spend in checking. I have started with the first step at least.

At home – My time is “our time” and “me time”–I have started surfing less of T.V., switching off to a silent mode(phone) while we eat together in our dining table, I make sure to have at least a cup of tea in that beautiful balcony (I realized the view was awesome beyond )with my family members. I also chat while I pour milk and  make the evening tea.

Thereafter I spend an hour with my daughter helping her with her studies, we have also started reading 3 pages everyday from a story book. I have seen a sudden rush of glow  while I sit beside her, it’s priceless.

By product of Time Management

And before I sleep I am left with some time. That’s “me” time. We all need some moments to ourselves as human beings, to think, to rejuvenate, to contemplate and to bring the best from within. To gather the strength to hold on to another dawn, to bounce back and feel the positive vibes internally. I meditate for 15 minutes and then hold on to a fresh lease of life, debugging the clutter. Another day, another beginning.

Time Saved-Finding Myself

I live in moments, I treasure those  “best moments” which I was able to spend with myself, my family and nature. It is but natural to be bowed down by  innumerable chains which life thrusts  upon us everyday but amidst all, a few moments can be lived.

It's  all about collecting moments in a smarter way and managing  it in a more better  way . So think what actually is the need, understand your inner desires, cravings, your necessities, thereafter the goals can be set.There is no end to desires of mind but there is an expiry date to your life, to your health, to your loved ones and to all those "Happiness"